I didn't know it at the time, but I received some of the best advice when I was just 12 years old. I was riding in the car with my dad after spending the weekend with him and my sister. My parents had recently divorced so every other weekend we would meet at a drop-off point between Milwaukee and Green Bay to either pick my sister and I up to go to dad’s or to come back ‘home’ to my mom’s house. The long talks on the rides between my two homes are some of my favorite memories with my dad.
It might be unclear what all this has to do with mindfulness, but I believe it’s key to striking this balance. For me, the two best things (so far!) that have come out of practicing mindfulness have been: the ability to better regulate my emotions, especially in stressful situations and being able to see things from others’ perspectives. When thinking about Dr. Gottman’s research, I think mindfulness is an important piece to the puzzle because these two outcomes facilitate more positive interactions.
Most of us are well acquainted with the feeling of stress and anxiety. Maybe it’s caused by that pending deadline at work or that fight you had with your partner that you know you have to deal with later. Whatever the situation, we all know that stress can wreak havoc on our bodies. From the head and neck pain to more serious and long-term effects like cardiovascular issues and GI issues. Today we're using mindful techniques to overcome stress and bring us back to the present moment.
Why supporting someone when things are going right is just as important why things are going wrong
Have you ever told someone some really exciting news, maybe you got a promotion, moved in with your significant other or got into graduate school, and their response was a little ‘meh’? These are events you thought were going to warrant lots of excitement and positive feedback but sometimes the response you get can fall flat. We’ve all been here and it can be really disappointing. Let’s talk about why.